This is a great helpful article by Elizabeth Grace Saunders for every single person, who has some or the other problem of not being able to finish a work or a project.
They can only hide it from me for so long:
Sometimes it takes a day, a week, or maybe a month—but eventually it
comes out. The Fear of Finishing.As a time management life coach,
I’ve found that many of my clients have a dread of finishing that they
keep hidden away—hoping that no one will ever notice that they get a lot
of little things done while never quite completing the really important
stuff.
Whether it’s due to a rabid perfectionism, an aversion
to criticism, or just an inability to maintain enthusiasm for the long
haul, we all have challenges and fears we must overcome to produce work
that matters. But pretending they don’t exist won’t get us anywhere.
Here’s a guide to diagnosing and treating what I’ve found to be four of the most common barriers to completion:
1. If You Believe Nothing Can Ever Really Be Good Enough to Be Finished
The mental battle: When
you’re convinced that “settling” for anything less than a
perfect-quality product is unacceptable, you tend to unconsciously lower
your standards in many other areas. This could include missing
deadlines, falling behind on other responsibilities and feeling stressed
all the time.
What to do: Evaluate your overall performance. To
clarify the cost of trying to do everything “ideally,” make a list of
what else could suffer (sleep, relationships, emotional state?). Then,
when you feel tempted to push closure off in the relentless pursuit of
perfection, look at this list for a reminder to stop.
Here’s the kind of thought process that breaks the tunnel vision: I
could stay up until 4 a.m. doing tweaks that no one else will notice,
but then I’ll be useless for the next two days. Instead, I’m going to
get the entire project to good enough and then give myself permission to
obsess over the kerning of the characters in the logo until 8 p.m. (I
want to be really proud of my typography.) Then, I’m stopping. Pushing
myself to work later isn’t worth the cost to my health and overall
productivity.
"Perfectionism can cause you to unconsciously lower your standards in other areas."
2. If Finishing Seems Like You're Closing Off Options
The mental battle: When you feel constrained instead of liberated by the idea of finishing, crossing an item off your list can feel terrifying: What if you want to change your mind later? What if some new alternative arises?
Unfortunately if you allow your fear of commitment to keep you from
wrapping up your current work, you keep yourself from moving forward on
new options by default.
What to do: Write a post-game plan.
As soon as hesitation to finish starts to set in, you need to clarify
the exact steps to complete the project and to pass seamlessly through
to new opportunities. Brainstorming all of the possibilities that will
open up once you move on from your current work will help you see that
finishing actually creates new beginnings. For instance, an
entrepreneur could start a list of investors to show his finished
business plan. A writer could research agents who could pitch her
completed book proposal to publishers. And an artist could find out the
call for entry deadlines for exhibitions that could feature his latest
series.
"As soon as hesitation to finish starts to set in, clarify the exact steps to complete the project."
3. If You Lose Excitement Before Finishing A Project
The mental battle:
Abandoning projects at 20%, 75%, or even 99% done adds up to 0%
benefit. When you feel like giving up on a project because you’ve lost
your enthusiasm, think about all of the effort that you’ve already put
into it that you would have to exert again if you started fresh. Then
imagine the (relatively) small amount of work required to drive your
existing creative effort into the end zone.
What to do: Partner with persistent people.
If you struggle with maintaining the energy to finish, individuals who
insist (sometimes to the point of annoying you) on pushing through can
be your greatest allies. Scheduled accountability and transparency gives
you positive peer pressure to keep at it when your initial energy
wanes.
Here’s how to make it a part of your routine: Break down your
project into actionable, written goals such as: read the requirements,
make note of important points, ask the client questions, etc. Then tell
someone who prides themselves on follow through exactly what you will do
and when.
This could look like you having a daily or weekly
accountability meeting where you list off your progress, or it could
look like you making a commitment to call or send an email with a status
report when you hit a deadline.
For instance: On August 16, I will email my extremely
detail-oriented friend to let him know that I’ve completed the rendering
of the first architectural model. Because he’s super reliable, he’ll
follow up with me if I don’t give him an update.
"Scheduled accountability and transparency gives you positive peer pressure to keep at it when your initial energy wanes."
4. If Finishing Feels Like Submitting Yourself to Criticism
The mental battle:
Fear of judgment can keep you from turning in an assignment. But if you
hide your work for too long, you deprive yourself of receiving valuable
feedback and open yourself up to criticism for not delivering on time
or for veering off track.
What to do: Reframe the situation or conversation. If
you feel like your external success determines your internal worth, you
will see the results of each new project as a judgment of your value as
a human being. To help you overcome that mindset, you can say to
yourself: I am a good______(graphic designer, writer, etc.). If they
don't like the first draft I submit, I am not a failure. I need to step
back from the situation, clarify what they want changed, think about
how I can implement their suggestions, make the adjustments, turn it in
again and move on.
Or if you don’t mind receiving feedback
but need it communicated in a certain way, consider talking with your
boss, co-workers, or even clients about how to constructively give their
input. For instance, you could request that you initially receive
comments via -mail before a meeting so you have the opportunity to
process them before responding. Or you could say something like: I
really appreciate it when you let me know you feel unsatisfied with a
presentation. But it would help me to meet your needs if you could
clarify what specific changes you want me to make instead of just
telling me that you’re unhappy with what I showed you.
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Victory shall be yours: With the right approach, you can push through to 100%.
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How About You?
Do you have a fear of finishing?
Have you identified the root cause? How have you overcome it?
